{"id":13612,"date":"2025-12-24T17:22:48","date_gmt":"2025-12-24T17:22:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/biblelon.com\/?p=13612"},"modified":"2025-12-24T17:22:48","modified_gmt":"2025-12-24T17:22:48","slug":"spiritual-prep-for-christmas-intercessors-for-america","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/biblelon.com\/?p=13612","title":{"rendered":"Spiritual Prep for Christmas – Intercessors for America"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n Reading Time:<\/span> 6<\/span> minutes<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Are you dreading family get-togethers this Christmas? Did you just barely get through Thanksgiving? Did the family festivity become a family feud? If so, you are not alone.\n<\/p>\n

Last year, the big divide between family members probably centered on the presidential election.\u00a0 This year, Thanksgiving may have cut on the vaccine issue.\u00a0 And Christmas \u2014well, who knows what a month might bring in terms of mine fields? But there\u2019s hope!<\/p>\n

Pray for your fellow intercessor.<\/h4>\n

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I\u2019ve learned three simple, though not easy, steps to freedom at family feasts. And this freedom is, not surprisingly, found in the blood of Jesus. Only His blood heals. So situations of strife require the blood to be applied \u2014 in repentance or in forgiveness, and often in both.\n<\/p>\n

If you are like me, you may store up a few grievances in your heart against others \u2014 especially family members who have that unerring ability to push the button calling down the nuclear strike. I call these grievances \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0 They accrue when someone sins against us and we store<\/em> that sin instead of forgiving<\/em> it. And we let it pile up into a mountain \u2014 or even a molehill \u2014 of debt. Sometimes the grievance stems from sin, but sometimes it arises from an offense of which the other person is blissfully ignorant.\n<\/p>\n

Regardless of the type of infraction, we are called to forgive. Matthew 18 makes this abundantly clear. Jesus is teaching His disciples here (the Church, that is) how to forgive. Over the years, I\u2019ve applied this same three-step process to forgiving those who are not yet believers, as well.\n<\/p>\n

Step One: Forgiveness starts with confronting sin.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Matthew 18:15 shows us sin \u2014 especially in the Church \u2014 needs to be addressed: If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.\u201d<\/em>\n<\/p>\n

The whole of this Scripture is worthy of study, but for the purposes of forgiveness, Jesus teaches we need to confront sin.\n<\/p>\n

We must acknowledge we were sinned against. Sometimes, I prefer to ignore the offense, which can be<\/em> ( and often is<\/em>) a godly choice. But this choice becomes sin if I just let it lie like a festering bullet in my soul. That wound usually becomes infected, gathering other sin around it like pus.\n<\/p>\n

I may not confront the offender with every sin or offense. Sometimes my doing so would actually lead that person into sin. Or perhaps the sin I\u2019m addressing came at the hands of a person now dead or even dangerous to me. But I do confront the sin with the Lord.\n<\/p>\n

Step Two: Forgive through prayer.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Just as Jesus did on the cross, we forgive by asking the Lord to do the work. We do the asking; He does the forgiving, just as Jesus encouraged in His teaching on prayer.\n<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is not, <\/em>nor does it require reconciliation.\u00a0 In fact, it may be unwise or impossible to reconcile. Reconciliation requires two willing parties;\u00a0 if the offender is dead or dangerous, reconciliation is impossible.\n<\/p>\n

Forgiveness, though, is <\/em>required for our relationship with the Lord.\n<\/p>\n

In fact, perfect forgiveness is possible; it entails forgiving the debt.\n<\/p>\n

Step Three: Forgive the debt.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

In Matthew 18:21\u201322, Peter asks Jesus a telling question: \u201cHow many times should I forgive my brother or sister \u2014 up to seven times?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0 Because rabbis of the day taught that forgiving someone three times was plenty, Peter may have thought himself quite generous by proposing to forgive seven times!\n<\/p>\n

But Jesus picks up on Peter\u2019s use of the biblical number for perfection, saying there is no limit \u2014 77 times! \u2014 to the number of times you forgive another person. In fact, He shares a picture of perfect forgiveness in the parable of the unmerciful servant.\n<\/p>\n

That story in Matthew 18:23\u201335 tells of a servant who owed his king an impossibly large sum of money. The servant begged for mercy from the king, who extended it by cancelling the debt. After this, the servant came upon a fellow servant who owed him a comparatively small amount of money. Instead of showing mercy, the first servant had the other thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. This outraged the other servants, who ratted the first servant out to the king. Because of the servant\u2019s harshness, the king dealt harshly with him.\n<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>This parable is rich in lessons we can\u2019t explore here, but one point Jesus is making is that perfect forgiveness requires writing off the debt that is owed to us. We need to mark our \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s\u201d<\/em> paid.\n<\/p>\n

Jesus did this on the cross. He kept no record of wrongs. He has no \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s.\u201d<\/em> If He did, the invoice might look like this:
\nImage used with permission of Joyce Swingle.\n<\/p>\n

Instead of enumerating debts we can\u2019t pay, Jesus chose to forgive. As He was dying, He gasped out the word, which in Greek is tetelestai<\/em>, meaning \u201cIt is finished.\u201d\n<\/p>\n

This was also the word written on invoices to indicate the bearer had paid his debt in full. Jesus\u2019 payment covers all the \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s\u201d<\/em> we are carrying too.\n<\/p>\n

Walking the Steps<\/strong><\/h4>\n

When I first started clearing debts \u2014 dealing with the \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s\u201d<\/em> of a lifetime \u2014 I would write down the initial offense on a piece of paper. Then I would ask Holy Spirit to help me understand how this sin had affected my life. The effect or \u201cdebt\u201d\u00a0 usually lay in my sinful or unhealthy reactions to the original offense. I wrote these \u201cdebts\u201d down on the paper in a second column. Sometimes I had several pages of such debts.\n<\/p>\n

For example, I once had a \u201cYou Owe Me\u201d<\/em> related to certain tasks I had done. The reaction of people to my inadequate performance was not pleasant. I felt sinned against by their reaction, but I also stored up some debts. Among these:\n<\/p>\n

Because of the reactions, I became anxious about those tasks and other things.\n<\/p>\n

Because I became anxious, I became a perfectionist.\n<\/p>\n

Because I became a perfectionist, I was rarely content.\n<\/p>\n

Because I was discontented, I became embroiled in all kinds of idolatry trying to allay anxiety and find happiness.\n<\/p>\n

This maladaptive behavior (sin, really) stemmed from my response to the unpleasant reactions to my performance on the tasks. I had debt \u2014 pus, if you will \u2014 gathering around that first wound.\n<\/p>\n

I have found the required honesty in the first step to be one of the more difficult parts of the process. I didn\u2019t want to believe I could be so petty as to hold certain things against other people or family members.\n<\/p>\n

\u201cShe didn\u2019t say hi.\u201d<\/em>\n<\/p>\n

\u201cHe seems to like that person more.\u201d<\/em>\n<\/p>\n

\u201cThey all forgot my birthday!\u201d<\/em>\n<\/p>\n

Sometimes the situations that launched a \u201cYou Owe Me\u201d<\/em> did not seem to require forgiveness, but my responses to them certainly did. I needed to face up to the sin those moments kicked off in me. Then I would ask the Lord to forgive me, the original offense (including the people involved), and the debt. And I would mark it paid! By the blood of Jesus!\n<\/p>\n

This year, many of my \u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s\u201d<\/em> have focused on ill-advised presidential election votes. The debt associated with those votes is accumulating daily, as IFA intercessors know. So I\u2019m regularly walking these steps. Yes, it takes time and tears, but I\u2019d rather do the work now so that I can enjoy \u2014 rather than stew through \u2014 my Christmas meals with friends and family.\n<\/p>\n

Dear Lord, teach us to acknowledge sin and offense quickly so that we might forgive and allow sin to be covered by the blood of Jesus. This way it does not accrue. But if debt has accrued, please help us identify it so that we can forgive and release the debt. We desire to have no <\/em>\u201cYou Owe Me\u2019s\u201d in our hands. Forgive us our debts even as we forgive our debtors. Set us free to enjoy our families and friends this blessed season. In Jesus\u2019 name. Amen.<\/em>\n<\/p>\n

Are you struggling to forgive an offense? Why not pray it through right now, below?<\/h4>\n

New York City\u2013based Joyce Swingle is an intercessor and a contributing writer for IFA. With her husband, Rich, also a contributing writer for IFA, Joyce shares the gospel of Jesus Christ around the world through theater, speaking, writing, and film. Prior to going into full-time ministry, Joyce worked for about 20 major magazines and now works in pastoral ministry and Christian counseling.\u00a0Read more about Joyce\u2019s work at www.Richdrama.com<\/span>. Photo by Gavin Tyte on Unsplash.<\/em>
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