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February 5, 2026<\/span><\/p>\n You Can\u2019t Change Him \u2026 But This Can<\/strong><\/span> Lee en espa\u00f1ol<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cAnd this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.\u201d 1 John 5:14-15 (ESV)<\/em><\/p>\n Six years ago, I made a decision that changed everything in my marriage: I decided to stop trying to change my husband.<\/p>\n Honestly, I was exhausted from carrying a weight I was never meant to carry. I wanted so badly to see spiritual growth and freedom in my husband\u2019s life, but somewhere along the way, my concern started to look like control.<\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019ve been there too. You love your husband deeply, but \u2026<\/p>\n You want him to grow as a leader. Those desires are good! But sometimes our approach can hurt more than help. God began to show me I was trying to do His job for Him, and frankly, I wasn\u2019t that good at it. What I really needed to do was move from fixing and controlling to surrendering and praying.<\/strong><\/p>\n So I woke up early every morning and prayed for my husband. And I physically felt the weight of control lift off my shoulders. I was slowly learning to surrender him to the Lord.<\/p>\n Something else began to happen too. Not only did I see God give my husband breakthroughs, but I experienced one of my own. I stopped trying to be my husband\u2019s Holy Spirit and started trusting the real Holy Spirit to be God.<\/p>\n Friend, the more we learn to pray, the more we learn to surrender, trust, and have confidence in God\u2019s sovereignty over our circumstances. \u201cAnd this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him\u201d<\/em> (1 John 5:14-15).<\/p>\n It\u2019s when we\u2019re not praying<\/em> that we are filled with discontentment and insecurity about the future of our lives and those we love. Praying builds in us a tough God-confidence. We learn to be confident that He\u2019s giving us and those we love what is best for us right now.<\/em> We can trust His plans and timing.<\/p>\n Even when we don\u2019t see proof yet, God hears, He cares, and He is moving. So take heart, and pray this prayer today:<\/p>\n Dear God, today I choose to surrender __________ to You. I am not meant to carry his load, stress, anxiety, or problems. I wasn\u2019t designed to, and I\u2019m exhausted trying to. I physically raise my hands to You now, acknowledging that only You can bring lasting change and healing. I release any controlling desire to fix him, and I trust You fully with his future. Your love for him is greater than I could ever fathom, and I fully surrender him into Your hands today. In Jesus\u2019 Name, Amen.<\/em><\/p>\n If you\u2019ve grown weary from trying to change the man you love, grab a copy of Amanda Hayhurst\u2019s bestselling devotional, Pray for Him<\/em>. It includes 30 days of breakthrough prayer designed to help you move from fixing and controlling to surrendering and praying.<\/p>\n Connect with Amanda Hayhurst on Instagram @AmandaHayhurstWrites for daily encouragement and behind-the-scenes inspiration. Want a free sneak peek of her bestselling devotional Pray for Him<\/em>? Click here<\/strong> to have the first chapter emailed to you today.<\/p>\n Enter to WIN your very own copy of Pray for Him\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>by Amanda Hayhurst. To celebrate this book, Amanda\u2019s publisher will give away 5 copies! Enter to win by filling out the form here. We\u2019ll randomly select 5 winners and notify them via email by Monday, February 9, 2026.<\/p>\n Philippians 4:6-7, \u201cdo not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus\u201d (ESV).<\/p>\n How would your marriage look different if, instead of trying to fix your husband, you chose to faithfully pray for him each day?<\/p>\n How might trusting God\u2019s timing (instead of your own) help you develop deeper \u201cGod-fidence\u201d in your relationships? We\u2019d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.<\/p>\n \u00a9 2026 by Amanda Hayhurst. All rights reserved.<\/p>\n Proverbs 31 Ministries thanks Bethany House Publishers<\/strong> for their sponsorship of today\u2019s devotion.<\/strong><\/p>\n Click here to view our policy on third-party links<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Proverbs 31 Ministries
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