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\u201cA man cannot enter into the deepest center of himself . . . unless he is able to pass entirely out of himself and give himself to other people in the purity of a selfless love\u201d (Thomas Merton).<\/p>\n
ONE OF THE GREAT IRONIES OF LIFE IS THAT WE FIND OURSELVES BY LOSING OURSELVES. If we\u2019re so obsessed with what we\u2019ve accumulated for our own enjoyment that we won\u2019t relinquish any of it for the sake of others, the result is not a richer life but a poorer one. (Think of Scrooge on Christmas Eve.) On the other hand, if we put less emphasis on what is ours and embrace the idea of sacrifice, what we find is that we\u2019ve gained more than we\u2019ve given away. (Think of Scrooge on Christmas morning.) We find what we\u2019re looking for only after we start looking for something else. A \u201cself\u201d comes to us not by self-centered<\/em>-ness but by \u2014 believe it or not \u2014 self-less<\/em>-ness.<\/p>\n If we haven\u2019t come to terms with it already, it\u2019s high time we recognized that we\u2019re happiest when we\u2019re giving ourselves away. That\u2019s just the nature of the reality we happen to be a part of, and we can no more change it than we can amend the law of gravity. To try, as many do, to gain happiness by selfishness rather than selflessness is an effort doomed to failure. C. S. Lewis said it this way: \u201cWhat is outside the system of self-giving is not earth, nor nature, nor ordinary life, but simply and solely Hell. Yet even Hell derives from this law such reality as it has. That fierce imprisonment in the self is but the obverse of the self-giving which is absolute reality.\u201d Selfishness is an assault on reality, an assault that is bound to fail eventually.<\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t mean we have no self-interest at all. It would be an unhealthy person indeed who had no concern for his own wants and needs. But selflessness means that we\u2019re willing to sacrifice<\/em> for the good of others, when sacrifice is needed, and that our own desires are filled up only when we\u2019re willing to pour them out. There aren\u2019t going to be any good things in the world if somebody doesn\u2019t do some giving, and if we want a share of the goodness, we\u2019re going to have to participate in the giving. As long as the world is the kind of place it is, there will be no serious gain without significant loss.<\/p>\n \u201cEvery man brings an egg and every one wants an omelette \u2014 but without breaking his own egg. That poses a most difficult situation\u201d (Frank Mar).<\/p>\n Gary Henry \u2013 WordPoints.com + AreYouaChristian.com<\/p>\n