Feel free to disagree, but I am a firm believer that marriage is not a 50/50 deal. Some days, you get more sleep, have more personal time, more quiet time, more time to invest in things that bring you joy and renewal. Other days, it’s your spouse’s turn for a calm, peaceful day. Some days, everything that could go wrong for you does, and on other days, your spouse is in that same sinking ship.
Often, these days are more like seasons, days and weeks on end that are hard, and it’s important that you take note of your spouse’s well-being. Are they exhausted from constantly carpooling the kids everywhere? Is your spouse the one who always cooks, cleans, and keeps the house tidy? Do they get up with the babies every night? Are they the ones clocking 40+ hours at the office week after week?
It’s easy to make a mental list of all the ways you are running on empty, but it’s likely your spouse feels the same. Check in with each other, and don’t ignore one another’s burnout. You guys are a team. Some days, you’re carrying the burden, and on other days, they are. Be each other’s support on those burdensome, heavy days.
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