My husband’s grandparents’ home served as a refuge for many in our family. During various life transitions, family members found safety and security living there short term. Adult children and grandchildren as well as a few friends of the family were offered hospitality when crises hit.
His grandparents recognized that they couldn’t fix the problems but they could alleviate stress and provide a sanctuary of restoration.
Refuge may extend outside of a physical place. It may look like short term financial help. Besides the offer of actual cash, it could mean paying certain bills such as healthcare expenses or car insurance until the individual reaches a place of financial stability.
Perhaps offering your home may include full-time residency or for an agreed upon short time. Other offers can include meals, use of laundry appliances, and extra vehicles. Communicating clearly about expectations is key. That way, both parties are in agreement and the best environment for refuge is cultivated.
Joanna Moorehead reflects on her own journey as she parents young adults, “But whether things are going well or badly, we remain, and always should be, the safe haven, the last resort, the taken for granted, the ultimate backup. I can still remember how reassuring it was to know during my thrilling, terrifying, tedious 20s that if this project or that relationship crashed and burned, there was always a place for me. A door I could knock on day or night. A friendly face, someone ready to put the kettle on, share a meal, take a friendly interest or, yes, offer that crucial hug of reassurance.”
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